Welcome to another edition of my annual non-New Year’s resolution blog post, where I list my top three goals for the year to come. I always used to have one fitness-related, one professional, and one personal goal for the year to come, but plan to change things up this year since fitness in the traditional sense is no longer a priority for me. Oh how I’ve changed in 2018!
I started publicly sharing my goals back in 2012 as a way to keep myself accountable, but also so I could look back and see where I was at the time fitness-wise, professionally and personally.
My 2012 and 2013 years were tough professionally and personally, as I was leaving one long-term relationship and moving into another, and transitioning from a tough contract job into a government position. In 2011 I completed my first triathlon and was a running machine, signing up for almost every local race I could afford. But in 2013 my focus shifted, and for some reason I made it my goal to “have abs” in 2013. I’m glad I decided to run my first ultra instead.
In 2014, I actually achieved all the goals I set out for myself, which I was super proud of — especially getting published (and featured!) in a print magazine and qualifying for Boston. In 2015 I did okay, but as I explained in this post, I was having another “transition” year, as I like to call it — where a lot more stuff was going on than what was shared on this blog.
Although I completed zero of my goals for 2016 (I missed qualifying for Boston twice — I got injured at the Phoenix Marathon in February then missed it again by 12 seconds at the Victoria Marathon in October; I pretty much forgot about writing a book proposal; and I did not pay off 50% of my debt – although I did set up an aggressive payment plan and opened an RRSP), it was a much better year overall. Matt and I had a blast at Disneyland and Vegas in February. We finally moved in together. We added another furry child to our pack (Gus the English Springer Spaniel). I went to BlogFest and got to meet all my favourite wellness bloggers IRL. More friends got married and had babies. All my family and friends stayed healthy. I stayed healthy. I had close to 160 freelance fitness articles published online and four published in print.
In 2017, I was a bit more general with my goals. I thought I would be going back to school to do an MBA (I applied to the program, got in, but decided at the very last minute not to do it because I didn’t want the extra debt). I also planned to read a lot of books and go on lots of trail runs and hikes (check!). I planned to make more time and space for friends and family (check!), and to only do things in my spare time I truly enjoyed (check!). I also made a point to love my body more, which happened later in the year when I decided to take a break from food restrictions and exercise for several months in order to restore balance, both physical and mentally (before shifting back to restricting again, sigh). Other amazing things that happened in 2017 include getting engaged, running Seaweeze and signing up for a 250-hour yoga teacher training program, which I completed in 2018.
My goals for 2018 were a bit more ambitious and shallow. My fitness goal was to get as fit and small as I could for my wedding day, which I achieved. I did feel amazing, but every day was a mental struggle with food and I had no idea just how damaging that was to my body. While I don’t regret it, I’m just glad the damage I caused was reversible.
My professional goal was so move up in my career and to save money for the wedding, which I just barely managed to do. I’ve been pretty good at budgeting this past year and am slowly digging myself out from the debt of the wedding. I paid off one massive bank loan and am now just tackling credit card debt and that pesky student loan, which is down to it’s last few hundred dollars. I still haven’t done much on the professional side, but did end up applying to get into grad school again late this year to do a Masters of Public Administration. I picked a MPA this time instead since it’s more affordable and relatable to what I do, plus it can be done online.
Other things that happened this year that were amazing:
- Got married to love of my life and had the most amazing wedding day surrounded by love and family and friends
- Had so much fun with my mom, aunties, cousins and other family planning our wedding and seeing it unfold perfectly
- Had the best time with my girls in Osoyoos touring vineyards and drinking alllll the wine!
- Had an amazing honeymoon in Disneyland
- Went to concerts, Sunfest, camping and other fun events
- Rebranded my blog
- Became a certified yoga instructor!
- Got my period back!
- Learned to knit 🙂
Yes, 2018 was an incredible year and will be hard to top.
Goals for 2019
I’m not sure what 2019 will have in store for us, other than an epic three-week trip to New Zealand in January (can’t wait!!!). We’re going to try to start a family, but due to my hormonal struggles, I know this might take longer than planned. I’m going to be optimistic though!
But really, my one hope for the new year is that everyone stays healthy and happy; anything else fun or exciting that happens in a bonus.
Here are a few measurable personal goals I’m going to work on for 2019:
- Stick to my budget and have 1/3 of my credit card paid off by the end of 2019.
- Continue to grow professionally either by getting into grad school or moving into a new position at work.
- Start teaching yoga! Either at home or community classes at MokSana. Once I get back from NZ I plan to focus on this more.
- Read more books this year. I want to have read at least 10 books by the end of 2019.
- Learn to play piano. I’ve started to learn the basics, but by the end of 2019 I’d like to be able to read music and play something other than twinkle twinkle little star 🙂
My less-measurable personal goals for 2019 will be the same as last year. I want to keep learning, loving and living to the best of my abilities. To stay strong if things get rough and remember to appreciate what I have today. To continue to make time and space for family and friends. To appreciate the little things and to stay humble. To keep moving, gently for now, until I can safely run again. To love my body more and learn to be comfortable in my bigger but healthier body. To only do things in my spare time I really enjoy and ditch the rest. To ask myself daily if my actions are serving myself or others in a positive way, and if not, to stop doing those things. To be gracious and giving. To make a difference in someone’s life for the better (be it an animal, nature or a person). To be a lighthouse – steady and strong in my convictions to draw others to the light. To be fearless and open-minded.
And with that, I’ll leave you with my favourite Neil Gaiman quote:
I hope that in this year to come, you make mistakes.
Because if you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing yourself, changing yourself, changing your world. You’re doing things you’ve never done before, and more importantly, you’re Doing Something.
So that’s my wish for you, and all of us, and my wish for myself. Make New Mistakes. Make glorious, amazing mistakes. Make mistakes nobody’s ever made before. Don’t freeze, don’t stop, don’t worry that it isn’t good enough, or it isn’t perfect, whatever it is: art, or love, or work or family or life.
Whatever it is you’re scared of doing, Do it.
Make your mistakes, next year and forever.